Remember when you and your spouse first started dating? If you were like most couples, those early days of your relationship and your marriage were exciting and energetic. You pursued each other. You spent hours talking on the phone or in person. You wanted to always be together. As time moved on, and life got in the way, that spark has probably dimmed or maybe completely burned out. After years of being married, raising kids, working, living life, somewhere along the way, the two of you stopped connecting.